BLOG – Mummy Guilt
I get ‘mummy guilt’. I see it with my clients, and I have experienced it myself, more times than I would like to remember.
Sometimes we put this guilt on ourselves. However, sometimes this guilt is put on us by others, either intentionally or not.
Being a mum is hard. No matter how well you are doing, you often think you are doing a terrible job. But one thing you need to remember is that you are doing the best, for you and your child, even if that is different to what others are doing.
I set up The Little Cherry Tree Company because I saw an area that parents needed help. I offer sleep consultation and baby massage. My aim is to do this is a way that makes the scary world of parenting a little less overwhelming. I do this with no pressure or judgement because society already makes us feel judged. Through my personal and professional life I have seen mummy guilt be discussed in lots of different ways.
Mums often feel bad when they go out for coffee with friends and leave their child with a friend or relative. Mums feel bad if they don’t take their child out enough, take their child out too much or if they feel they might be taking their child out at the wrong times.
There is so much that can trigger mummy guilt, and with hormones all over the place, perhaps this isn’t surprising. We feel more sensitive to things that pre-children wouldn’t have phased us.
I think the most important thing to remember is that a happy child is only created through a happy family. A happy family isn’t possible without a happy mummy that over thinks everything and piles extra guilt onto them. If you are happy, your family will be happy and here at The Little Cherry Tree Company we believe that is the most important thing.
It is essential that you don’t compare your child, yourself or your parenting style to others. You know ‘you’ and your child better than anyone else. You need to do what works for your family and not worry about what everyone else is doing.
It is your journey, a journey for you, your child and your new family. Nobody else has the directions for your journey and while that can make it seem quite scary, it is also really exciting, don’t you think?
If you take just one thing away from this blog post, please take this away – you are not alone! We all experience pangs of ‘mummy guilt’. It is how you deal with them and overcome them that really counts.